The Jig Is Up
Something hit me today. Literally half an hour ago. And I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to finally grasp the concept.
I am no longer single.
I know what you’re thinking. “Hello, you’ve been married a year now and are about to have a baby. It’s taken you this long to realize you’re not single anymore?”
It’s not that I’ve been acting like a swinging singleton this whole time Dman and I have been seriously committed to each other. It’s just that I’ve never really thought about it, in the whole nail-in-the-coffin-of-your-single-life way. I’ve been happily newly-wedded and knocked-up and haven’t given it much of a second thought.
So what triggered this not-so-revealing revelation? The Twilight books. (Groan. I know it’s pathetic.)
Reading these teen romances and subsequently surfing the net about the dreamy Robert Pattinson (aka Edward Cullen) shocked me into awareness that I’m not going to be going to some bar in New York anytime soon to try to seduce some famous model-actor who plays a vampire for a living. Oh the humanity!
Hottie Robert Pattinson
Because I’ll explain something about single life in Manhattan when you’re young, kind of dumb and just looking to have some fun. That kind of thing—finding hot guys and/or celebrities to hook up with—isn’t that difficult to do. Stupid, maybe, but not difficult. And although I put that lifestyle behind me a few years ago, I guess some habits do die hard. (Plus, I’ve always had a thing for vampires…)
Anyway, it’s not regret so much as a bit of wistfulness as I transform into this brand new creature called “Mom.” I think I’m figuring out how to finally let go of my sometimes-sordid, sometimes-exciting and sometimes-lonely single life. It’s not a bad thing. In fact, it’s actually mainly good and I’m probably happier now than I’ve ever been.
But to all my single ladies out there, do it up. I’m living vicariously through you now!
*Laughs*
I realized it last year when I was filling out some sort of visa form and it had relationship status options like Single/ Married/ Divorced/ Widowed.
I could see that now that I am married, I can never ever tick that box next to single?
(And ‘Hi and Congratulations’, I happen to read your blog- and have you in my Google Reader along with some others that I like to read. I may not have commented before today though)
So crazy that it comes as a shock in the most random ways, isn’t it? Lol. Well, married it is… and remember when you were single and all you wanted was to be paired off with someone? Oh… that greener grass!
And so glad you like the blog!
Maggie,
I just read your article on “Why I Love (and hate) Dating A Gorgeous Guy”… good stuff.
I also read your blog about Twlight and Robert Pattison… my girlfriend (who is 38 by the way) is absolutely crazy about him. Sure, he is good-looking, but what else is it about him? Help me understand!!
Thanks,
Mike
LOL, Mike. I answered your question in my new post today, “Answers.” Anyway, it’s all a vampire/Prince Charming fantasy thing. I imagine your girlfriend is happiest with real-life you!
Hey I came across your blog looking for a Carrie Bradshaw “short hair” haircut and clicked on a pic of her that led me to your post about how you relate to her. I have to tell you I feel like I couldn’t have said it better myself, and can’t wait to read more of your blog. I’m not a New Yorker, but I feel that Sex and the City emitted a tone of living a carefree, get what makes you happy at any time, yet successful life. What more could you want?
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